What is love? No, I am not an aspiring philosopher or poet. It’s rather that I have seen lately how we all – all of mankind presumably – are called upon to “Choose Love, not Hate”. This has made me think about what love really is. Love, of course, can be a lot of things. As any classical student knows, the terms of ancient Greece are often used to describe different types of love. I believe that these categories best describe what is so hard to define.
There is Agape, a general word for non-erotic love and the word that is still used in modern Greek.
There is also Eros, which refers to a sensual and/or sexual type of love, the type you have for you spouse or lover. Lust is related to that feeling.
There is Philia, the brotherly love that one feels for ones friends and family and also for community, country or race.
Storge is the natural, biological love for ones offspring.
Xenia is the love – and related honor-bound responsibility – of a host for visitor or guest.
All of these categories are very helpful, both intellectually and emotionally, but they are also rather one-dimensional. There is a second dimension that I think is also very important. That is how pure and self-less your love is.
True Love is self-less and giving. You love someone so much that you just want to give and make him or her better and happier and stronger. The very act of giving and seeing the result of giving, makes you happy. One of the ultimate acts of self-less love is to give up pursuing someone, because you know that they’d be happier with someone else. If you really love your spouse of your children, you’d give up a kidney or a lung and you know that – if there is no other way out – you’d lay down your life for them. That is self-less love.
Then there is that other kind of love. The False Love from the dark side. The kind of love that compulsive, obsessive, demanding and suffocating. The kind of love that demands and and takes and sucks dry, but never gives. The kind of love that is domineering and controlling and fulfills a perverse need in the dark pits of a sick mind. The type of love that demands that you’ll agree, bend, cower and submit or you’ll be punished for daring to oppose. The type of love that uses, abuses and destroys.
The type of love that an abusive husband shows his wife when he beats her with a belt, in a spot where is won’t show. The type of love that Josef Fritzl showed his daughter when he raped her over 3,000 times and made her pregnant seven times. The type of love that a pedophile shows when he molests a child. The type of love that the old-style schoolmaster shows when he flogs the pupils until they cannot sit down. The type of love that the Marxists show when the persecute those who dare oppose their sick doings. The type of love the multicultural supremacists show when they incite to riot, sabotage and murder. The type of love that the domestic terrorists show when they – through malice, libel and lies – effectively deny a whole ethnic group their constitutional rights.
Personally, I have plenty of Agape in my heart and plenty of Eros for my wife. I have Storge for my children, my precious offspring and Philia for my extended family and my embattled people. I have Xenia for the guests and strangers, as long as they respond in kind. Of course, I don’t love everyone I meet with a flaming passion. I live in an area with high crime and where Whites are a minority: I may not like everyone I meet, but I treat them with respect and expect the same in return.
However, for those who abuse the beauty of love and use it as a cover for their sickness, I have no love. I have sorrow and pity and I will defend myself and those I truly love against the warped and dark “love” peddled by Socialists, Marxists and multicultural supremacists to my dying breath.
When these warped minds ask us to “choose Love”, they mean love on their terms and it’s always “or else…”. That is not True Love, it is False Love and it is meant to devour us.