This is a rough summary of how I see the issue.
I’ve been called a wignat feminist by incels because I don’t rage against women on this website. I like women. I don’t have a problem with women. I believe men and women are naturally compatible and complementary. Society works when it is built around this inequality between the sexes.
The problem isn’t women. It is liberalism and modernism. It is the exposure of men and women to this ideology and sensibility in the media and college. As Thomas Edsall points out here, once you account for values and education and attitudes toward traditional cultural values – what is going on in the twisted minds of women as opposed to their great-grandmothers – the gender gap disappears.
“The phenomenon of the gender gap — the fact that women as a whole are more supportive of the Democratic Party than men are — masks significant divisions in the American electorate.
A focus on gender gaps misses important ways that gender structures party competition because the politics of gender does not, generally speaking, divide men from women. Rather, it often engages questions of women’s and men’s roles, rights, and relative power; it pits those defending traditional gender arrangements against those advocating for egalitarian gender arrangements. In other words, the politics of gender divides supporters of gender egalitarianism and feminism — male and female — from gender traditionalists and anti-feminists of both sexes. …
It almost goes without saying, but men and women who support traditional gender roles for men and women lean strongly toward the Republican Party; men and women who question traditional gender roles and who are sympathetic to women’s rights lean strongly to the Democratic Party. …
While there are modest gender gaps in partisanship, voting and policy views, Winter wrote, “these pale compared with the differences among men and among women in views on gender roles and feminism. And gender roles and feminism have increasingly structured elite partisan debate.”
In an email expanding on the points he made in his book chapter, Winter wrote “that a voter’s personal masculinity/femininity (and views on same)” interacts with partisanship so “that people (men or women) who support traditional gender roles tend to favor the Republican Party and people who either reject or at least do not valorize traditional gender roles (men and women both) favor the Democratic Party.” The focus “is on the voter’s views about how gender should be organized (i.e., the belief that men should be masculine, act masculine, and hold masculine roles; women should be feminine, act feminine, hold feminine roles).” …”
Effeminite men and masculine women are much more likely to be Democrats. Democrats are much more likely to support atheism, sodomy, abortion, feminism, multiculturalism, gay marriage, polygamy, drug abuse, interracial sex and marriage, pornography, “sex work,” “trans,” illegal immigration and so on. These issues are all clustered together and reflect attitudes toward traditional values.
Did you go to college? If so, how do you feel about the values of your native culture? Do you identify with or reject those values? Those are the real questions.